“Lesson Number One: All the time traveling in the world can’t make someone love you. “-Tim, About Time

About Time: Mary and Tim.

“Lesson Number One: All the time traveling in the world can’t make someone love you.”- Tim, About Time.

「第一課:再怎麼時光倒轉,都不可能讓某人愛上你。」-提姆《真愛每一天》

In the film, About Time, 21-year-old Tim is told by his father that every man of their family is gifted with the ability to travel to any point in the past. As a timid, introverted lad, Tim desperately longs to have a girlfriend and decides immediately to use this power to get Charlotte, his first crush, to fall in love with him. When Tim tells Charlotte that he fancies  her the day before her departure, she smilingly declines and claims that he should have told her earlier. To win her heart, Tim travels back to the very next day Charlotte arrives and pours out his heart to her; however, she refuses him by saying that it’d be really romantic if he could have done so right before her departure.

This is how Tim learns the most precious lesson ever: All the time traveling in the world can’t make someone love you.

While the concept that “all men are created equal” may be seen as simply a political statement, the belief in the equal intensity of love is absolutely a utopian fantasy. Since it’s often the case that you can’t make someone love you back with equal intensity however hard you try, those hopelessly stuck in one-sided romance still believe their endurance and devotion can eventually pay off.

Sad, isn’t it?

One adorable friend of mine spent almost ten years rising above her obsessive and unrequited love for a guy she had fallen in love with at college orientation because he turned out to be homosexual (how sad but thank God). Were it not for this revelation, I can’t imagine for how much longer she would persist in her efforts to win his heart.

A very wise man once said, “you have to love yourself before someone else can love you,”which may sound like a cliche but it’s self-evident. If you can’t make someone love you back however hard you try, “all you can do is love yourself and be someone who can be loved. The rest is up to them.”

“How long will I love you? As long as stars are above you.”- About Time

 “How long will I love you? As long as stars are above you.”-  About Time.

“How long will I love you” is the theme song of the film “About Time,” which I just watched and reckoned probably as the best film I’ve watched this year. It’s about the very true meaning of love, family, wedding, and marriage. It’s about commitment to beloved ones and the positive attitude to cherish every single day with them, which makes “About Time” a brilliant film absolutely worth watching.

How Long Will I Love You/ Ellie Goulding

How long will I love you?
As long as stars are above you,
And longer if I can

How long will I need you?
As long as the seasons need to
Follow their plan

How long will I be with you?
As long as the sea is bound to
Wash upon the sand

How long will I want you?
As long as you want me to,
And longer by far

How long will I hold you?
As long as your father told you,
As long as you can

How long will I give to you?
As long as I live through you,
However long you say

How long will I love you?
As long as stars are above you,
And longer if I may

We’re all traveling through time together
Every day of our lives
All we can do is do our best
To relish this remarkable ride

My favorite version:)

“It is not possible for a man to be elegant without a touch of femininity.”-Vivienne Westwood

Vivienne Westwood

“It is not possible for a man to be elegant without a touch of femininity.”-  Vivienne Westwood.

「一絲陰柔氣息都沒有的男人,是不可能優雅的。」-薇薇安魏斯伍德

When I was younger, I admired guys who appeared tall, masculine, broad-  shouldered, self-confident and tough. I adored athletes who had my ideal of all  that was manly. I thought every single man was supposed to be good at or at least fond of sports, and they should never be allowed to show even a tiny touch of femininity. I worshiped masculinity so much that even a guy smiled with girlish shyness would repel me.

But as I age, my perception of men’s traits has profoundly changed. I come to realise that an alpha man can hardly be a thoughtful gentlemen because they seldom show their gentle side. How can a man lacking gentle sides be an ideal  partner? A guy with a masculine physique may serve as pleasing eye candy, but if what you fancy is someone who has no problem pursuing an elegant life with you, you may have to give it a second thought.

Not any more an absolute admirer of masculinity, I now find men with feminine character traits more exquisite and attractive. I mean, isn’t it quite amusing to sometimes watch a full-grown man behaving like a little girl trying to butter you up  with hugs and compliments?

Are you wondering whether your personality tends to be masculine or feminine? Let’s take a personality test to find it out:)

How masculine/feminine are you?

The following is my result. Thankfully I’m basically a woman but I absolutely don’t agree that women were made to cook and clean.

For 40 % you are: You are oh-so-obviously a woman (or at least a woman at heart). You weep during romantic movies, want to have lots of babies, upset your boyfriend with lots of emotional outbursts, and love to cook and clean while your man is at work. Yes, all women love to cook and clean. That is just how they were made.

 

“WILSON! I’m sorry! I’m sorry, Wilson. “-Castaway

“Castaway” Chuck Noland and Wilson.

“ WILSON! I’m sorry! I’m sorry, Wilson. Wilson, I’m sorry! I’m sorry! WILSON! I CAN’T! WILSON! WILSON!”-  Chuck Noland “Castaway”.

 

I’m not an emotional crybaby but the scene in which Chuck (the main character of “Castaway”) realizes he can’t swim to save Wilson and heartrendingly apologizes to this blood-faced volleyball always makes me burst into tears.

I’m not sure if this line can be seen as a proper quote, but I do think it conveys meaning far more profound than the literal level of words.

During the four years Chuck spends alone on the deserted island, Wilson the volleyball serves as his personalized friend, rescuing him from solitude and mental breakdown. To Chuck, Wilson is more than an inanimate companion. It’s his closest friend on the island, giving him hope and support. When he has to leave Wilson, it’s also time that he waved farewell to Mother nature and went back to the civilization.

Wilson symbolizes Chuck’s personal delusion, and the losing Wilson scene shows his determination to finally get back to the real life. It pains to choose to face the reality since reality is always harsh and can be ugly. But we can’t live in dreams or illusions for good. That’s why we eventually have to say goodbye to our “Wilsons,” put on a brave face and struggle alone ever after.

Sometimes I miss my Wilson too, the Wilson which used to protect me from the grown-up world. We’ve been parted for so long. I guess he’s now with someone who needs him more than I did, probably a melancholic little girl, or a pitiful homeless dreamer.  

“I am not overweight. I fluctuate between chubby and curvy.”-The Mindy Project

From: The Mindy Project.

“I am not overweight. I fluctuate between chubby and curvy”-  Mindy Lahiri.

「我才不胖。我只是遊走於圓潤跟凹凸有致之間。」-明迪拉希莉

 “The Mindy Project” Season 1 is my current favorite TV series. It’s a refreshingly witty comedy about an Indian-American obstetrician, Mindy Lahiri, who is dedicated to looking for her true love in the city of New York.

As a 30 something career woman, Mindy Lahiri is by no means a typical beauty. Not tall, not slim, and not fair-skinned, Mindy tends to gulp down fast foods whenever she wants to. Once a friend asks her,” You know what would cheer you up?” She replies without skipping a beat, “McDonald’s.” (Well, I would say Mos Burger). Although she doesn’t have a gorgeous face and a perfect body, she’s still so adored by people around her and every friend of her absolutely finds her fascinating.

She’s smart, confident, humorous, and extroverted. She talks in a honest and sometimes blunt way but never sounds harsh or rude. I like how she defends for her body type by stressing that she’s not overweight but just “fluctuates between chubby and curvy.” This is quite impressive since not so many Asian women are confident enough to make a big stand for their natural beauty.

Of course, Mindy is still aware of her look and self-conscious about her body. But inferiority complex is never a problem she needs to deal with. She remains self-assured, friendly, positive and optimistic. She knows how to have fun in life, which makes her look beautiful along the way.

Next time when someone asks you to lose some weight, fix your nose, or reshape your eyes, tell them confidently that you fluctuate and you actually love the way it is, just like Mindy Lahiri. 

“There is no love sincerer than the love of food.”- George Bernard Shaw.

din tai fung :shrimp dumpling

Din Tai Fung :shrimp dumpling

“There is no love sincerer than the love of food.”- George Bernard Shaw.

「沒有一種愛比對美食的愛好更真誠。」-蕭伯納

My parents have long been  huge believers in family meal time ever since I could remember. During the meal , all the family members have to gather around the dining table and enjoy whatever my mum prepares for us (no one dares complain unless he/she doesn’t mind being thrown out of the dining room for good).

I guess my absolute focus on food while eating has its root in this long-practiced family ritual. To me, dining is always an experience so pleasant and exciting because tasting well-made delicacies is like falling in love with a sophisticated gentleman. The difference is that a relationship with someone could eventually come to an end, but the relationship with food is permanent.

You may find it devastatingly hard to handle the end of your relationship with someone, and sometimes it takes a lifetime to get over the heartbreak. Some people even choose to terminate their life to end the suffering, which is absolutely not a wise act.  When it comes to food, everything gets simpler. Even if the food you consume is contaminated or undercooked, what you may suffer is diarrhoea or vomiting caused by food poisoning, and it takes only a few days at best for you to regain your vitality and good health.

Thus, I  got every reason to love food because  the ultimate existence of food is to please every single palate and satisfy all the senses. A very wise man once said, “life pains without love, but life ends without bread.” If you haven’t built a solid relationship with food, I suggest you do, because there is no love sincerer than the love of food.

“To carry a secret is to play with fire.”-Revenge

“To carry a secret is to play with fire…try to pass it on and you risk hurting someone else…hold on to it and eventually you’ll get burned.”- Revenge.

「心懷秘密猶如與火為伍。試圖擺脫,唯恐傷及無辜;堅守秘密,終將引火自焚。」-《復仇》

The introspective quotes in “Revenge” is definitely part of its charms. I quite like those about “keeping secrets” because life would be unbearably dull if we got no secrets to share and gossip with our friends. Yes. Women’s friendships are basically based on the sharing of secrets. And we love it.   

Here are some other reasons why I love the ABC series “Revenge”: First of all, it’s truly a well-written get-even kind of story with unexpected plot twists and cliff hangers. Also, the main characters featured on it are charming, adorable, and most importantly, resourceful (here I mean Emily and Noland in particular. Takeda was okay too..but the Takeda in Season 2 becomes a bald dead guy that I don’t fancy at all).

Anyway, Revenge Season 3 premiere is to be airing tonight (in the US of course). Can’t wait!